Uncertainty

Spurningur: I sometimes think I’m neurodivergent, not only because of videos I see on the Internet, but because of habits I notice. I hyperfixate on stuff, I have minor stims for touching something icky or something that makes me excited. I overthink all of my choices, and I tend to stay quiet unless with my friends. I hate social situations, and have a hard time putting myself out there. I know it might be paranoia, but I hate it. I hate how I feel so very different from all the other girls in my class. I don’t compare myself to the boys, since the boys get seems as normal when their loud. I’m not loud. But I’m quite then all the other girls. I feel deeply, yet I have a hard time expressing some emotions at times. I have it difficult expressing gratitude. Of course I’m happy for the gifts, but it’s hard to show. I want to talk to my mother about it, but she doesn’t have a different kid to compare to. I’m her only child, and she says I’m similar to my aunt (my aunt has adhd and autistic traits), but says these habits are things I’ll grow out of. And I don’t know what I’m supposed to do, because I have a good relationship with my parents, but she doesn’t really get what I mean, I think. I also get quite awkward when talking about it, because it’s only some things. Hyperfixaiton, stims, counting, and some other stuff. I also forget easily. I’d appreciate your help, thank you.

Dear you,

Thank you for your letter.

You have taken a lot of time to think about what you struggle with and you have done a great job of expressing your struggles here.

You describe that you suspect that you are neurodivergent. It sounds like you feel like you are very different from your friends and classmates, and that you do not quite fit in. Feeling different from everyone else can be a very lonely experience. Have you tried talking to your friends about these feelings? You might find that some of your friends have similar feelings. I feel that it is important to remind you that we are all different, and most of us will feel different and like we don’t fit in from time to time.

Unfortunately, I will not be able to tell you whether you are neurodivergent or not. To get a diagnosis, you will have to go through a process at the hospital where you are assessed by psychologists and psychiatrists. I am sorry to hear that you feel that your parents do not quite understand what you are struggling with. Do you have any other adults that you trust and feel you can talk about these things with? Maybe a teacher, the school nurse or a family member? I encourage you to talk to an adult, as they can maybe help you.

You are welcome to write back or call Tú og Eg Ráðgevingina on 116111, which is open every weekday from 6pm to 10pm.

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